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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  thanks for the quick replies.

yes, we had sexual/emotional intimacy the first two years of dating and first year of marriage.  then things got wonky.  H stopped initiating sex.  we went to a sex therapist.  that helped for about a year.  wasn't awesome, but was good enough, and we were still emotionally close.  then stuff happened in life...health challenges, miscarriages, kids.  he retreated about 7 years ago and won't resurface.

to the PP who said she is more at peace with her situation...how did you get that way?  i was tolerating it but i am finally just devastated by the whole situation.  it isn't just no/low sex and cuddling...he does not share himself emotionally either.  i give of myself over and over and often times i am met with crickets.

thanks to the PP who gave her input about the realities of divorce.  how long did you hang in there?  it has been 7 years for me.[/quote]

Wait a minute, it's been 7 years that you've been hanging in there but you have a kindergarten-aged child?  How can that be?[/quote]

What a dumb question.  Are you an idiot?   :roll: [/quote]

Well, it'd either be IVF or it'd be adultery. Now if OP had a baby with another man while she was still married to her husband, don't you think that'd make things a teeny bit different?

I don't really see the need to be defensive about privacy when you're asking the Internet to be a free marriage counselor. [/quote]

I'm the one who asked.  My point was if things started going south 7 years ago, to the point where you were just hanging in there, how do you have a 5-year-old?  An "accident" I could almost understand, but I don't understand going through IVF (BTDT) to create a child with someone with whom you're just hanging in there.   Maybe things weren't that bad 5 years ago?  [/quote]

OP here. Things weren't that bad then. They weren't great but not horrible. And the problems we had I blamed on being new parents and exhausted. I thought eventually we'd find our way out of it. We never did and things snowballed to now.[/quote]

Hey OP. I'm one of the many children of divorce that popped in to say that your kids would be just fine. Still think that but adding an addendum. When you remarry, pick wisely and don't be like these jerks http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/485240.page [/quote]

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