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[quote]Please get yourself some help before you lose your child and family over this nonsense. It 's not all about fulfilling your animal instincts [/quote]

This is one thought I have. That I'm a grown-up now and that if I wanted to explore polyamory and have relationships with both men and women, I should have done so back in college. Perhaps the ship has sailed, so to speak. Of course, in college, I was insecure and lacked the confidence necessary to embark on such a path.

And then I think, this is my one life to live, and perhaps I shouldn't limit myself. [/quote]

For now, it's just a thought experiment anyway. [/quote]

Oh don't listen to that judgmental crap, OP. Life is short. I would rather live and enjoy and experience my life than be 100% safe. If this is not the right thing for your marriage, then fine. But you are responding respectfully to someone who refers to your desire and natural curiosity as "animal instincts." Come on. That is total crap. The only two people who should really have a say in this are you and your husband. [/quote]
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I guess it's my fear showing through. Fear that I'll mess things up by exploring non-monogamy, and [b]having internalized ideas like those expressed by the "animal instincts" PP[/b]. [/quote][/quote][/quote]

That is completely understandable but let's remove the judgment from the language and talk about what this really is. You have not had a chance to fully explore your sexuality and this is troubling you. Probably the best approach, if your husband is interested, is just to explore this intellectually for a while. Read books, talk, meet some people. You don't have to jump into anything unless you find that you are both committed. I believe that if your love is strong, and you test the waters and find that it is not going to work, then you can turn back. But I do caution you to resist making false promises to a third or fourth party. If you tell someone you are available for a relationship and your husband nixes it a few weeks into it, then you will hurt someone. Ethics and responsibility are very important in the world of non-monogamy. Any poly person who tells you this is all beautiful and perfect is lying to you. [/quote]

Thanks, PP. I have a lot of reading and thinking and talking with DH to do, for sure![/quote]

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