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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]  [quote]  And to everyone saying "My child doesn't respond to anything else." - you are wrong. You haven't done it right yet. I guarantee that any child on this planet can be raised properly without spanking. You have to want to put in the effort of course...
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How incredibly condescending to those struggling with a difficult child.[/quote]

I stand by what I posted. My entire post not just this snippet. No child deserves to be hit. No child needs to be hit in order to be parented. If you 'need' to hit you have bad parenting skills. Check yourself before you blame your kids. I don't care how appalled you act for being called out. There is NO child, no matter how difficult, who needs spanking to be disciplined. Get your parenting act together, do your research, get help if you need to but stop hitting your children. How anyone can seriously condemn violence between adults yet hit their own children is beyond me. How anyone can seriously say they are trying to teach their kids not to hit, have manners and be good people but use corporal punishment when parenting is beyond me.

You spanking parents have no clue how to parent properly or you would not be spanking your defenseless children. Disgusting. I am SO glad I was born and grew up in a country where spanking is not only illegal but detested by anyone even mildly intelligent.[/quote]

Take a down a notch, sanctimommy? Children don't have same logic abilities or verbal abilities or self awareness as adults.  Sometimes you need to spank to indicate that a behavior is unacceptable. It's akin to training puppies. It works, but if you don't like it - don't do it.[/quote]

You spank your children then? You are disgusting. I am usually a VERY calm and collected poster no matter how hairy the subject on DCUM...but spanking is a whole different level of wrong. You are comparing your children to puppies then? And you are surprised why I judge you? Parents who spank and after being called out even defend spanking are disgusting. There is no nice, polite, politically correct words for parents who hurt their children intentionally. There just aren't.[/quote]

NP. I spank my children. It's a reasonable form of punishment, as long as you do it rationally and don't go overboard (same as timeouts-, for that matter). Your condemnation is emotional but not based on sound reasoning.[/quote]

It's not a reasonable form of punishment. Which intelligent person could seriously think that? Is it reasonable for police officers to hit prisoners? Is it reasonable for men to hit their spouses? Is it reasonable for women to hit their spouses? Is it reasonable for teenagers to hit their classmates? Yet somehow some people still believe it is reasonable for parents to hit their children. My condemnation is based on intense emotions as well as VERY sound reasoning. There are so many studies done and expert opinions out there as well as so many countries making spanking illegal that you can not seriously walk around today and claim spanking is the proper way to raise children.[/quote]

Parent/child relationship is not anywhere near the same as those relationships.  No one is responsible for another adult; parents are responsible for children.  If a spouse does something that the other spouse doesn't like, the spouse can divorce.  Parents can't divorce their kids.

Society doesn't have the same expectations of behavior that we have on  adults.  Parents are expected to have some control and responsibility over their kids in our society. We don't expect for a husband and wife in this country to have the same type of relationship that a parent and child has.[/quote]

You are right. Nothing is quite the same as the relationship between a parent and a child. Children are innocent. They are vulnerable. They depend absolutely on their parents. They can not fend for themselves. They can not defend themselves. They can not just leave, they are stuck with their parents until they grow up. As a parent abusing that relationship, that dependency, that trust by hurting your child is despicable. Sorry but your 'point' really only proves even more that parents should NEVER hit their children.[/quote]

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