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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you lost my respect. Seriously are you living in the 50s? Why do yuo expect fulfillment from your husband? you earn 40K, where is YOUR drive? If money is that important to you get to work.

I am a woman, I earn twice what my husbands make (he earns 60K working for a non profit). Financial stability was much more important to me, so even if I also work in development field I chose the slightly less satisfying but better paid job. I know he wouldn't be happy in my shoes.

In exchange, he is a frugal but happy and professionnally fulfilled husband dedicated to his children (he gets home earlier than me). He wondered at some point if he should go work for big law firms and make more money "for us". I said no, I'd rather have a happy husband.[/quote]

Same situation here.  My husband is a teacher in public school.  He has a master's degree from an ivy, had great earning potential, but wanted to work with kids, have the stability of an academic calendar, and give back to the community.  I, on the other hand, have focused on moving up in my career to fill the financial gap of what is needed to actually survive financially in the DC metro area.  I don't make a huge amount of money, but almost double the pittance that a teacher makes.

Sometime I become wistful about being in a relationship with someone with more drive and ambition.  But the honorable characteristics of my husband are perfectly suited to his current profession.  He's a good and dedicated father and husband.  He has respect in his school amongst his peers and his students.  He's a stand-up guy.  And it means I have to work harder to get my own salary to what makes me comfortable for our HHI.  There are always trade offs.  You have to decide what you can live with, OP.[/quote]

It sounds like he does have drive and ambition, and is following his passion and excelling in his field. Drive and ambition isn't always connected to earning potential. I have enormous respect for teachers.[/quote]

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