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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
It wasn't a threat to cheat. And i did not cheat in secret.
It was the truth: i refuse to stay faithful to a sexless spouse.
Problem solved. No regrets here and advise others to likewise be honest.
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Well if I recall correctly, it was not a sexless marriage - just not up to your specifications. And you gave your wife some kind of deadline and requirements to refrain from cheating. Yuck, I will repeat.  [/quote]

I like your term: specifications.
Let's say the relationship and marriage begin and with Specifications "A" for sexual frequency, variety, mutual interest, etc.
Let's say that Specs "A" are sustained for quite a while during the marriage, again both sides are happy.
Then let's say after many years and 2 kids, the wife chooses to invent a new set of sexual specifications, Specs "B", which are significantly less then Specs "A".
Let's also say that Specs "B" are not a sustainable level for me to remain happily married, and that I'm willing to work on whatever issues my wife needs to return closer towards Specs "A" and that I'll compromise a bit here just that Specs "B" are at such an extreme it simply DOES.NOT.WORK.

Would you advise that I keep quiet on that? 
Or should I be honest about my need (which really hasn't increased from Day 1 of the relationship)?
Should I respectfully and openly discuss the issue and offer her some alternatives that maybe we both could live with?
For example: divorce?
Please let me know how SHOULD a man deal with a wife who decides to "cut way back" in the sex department.[/quote]

God, you are still so clueless about sexuality.  I guess it's possible that your wife set out to deliberately stop having as much sex as you want. But much more likely that, you know, LIFE just happened, to make her less interested in doing it 4x/week. This is totally normal, so normal, not some kind of breach of contract like you seem to be saying. [/quote]

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