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It wasn't a threat to cheat. And i did not cheat in secret.
It was the truth: i refuse to stay faithful to a sexless spouse.
Problem solved. No regrets here and advise others to likewise be honest.
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Well if I recall correctly, it was not a sexless marriage - just not up to your specifications. And you gave your wife some kind of deadline and requirements to refrain from cheating. Yuck, I will repeat.  [/quote]

I like your term: specifications.
Let's say the relationship and marriage begin and with Specifications "A" for sexual frequency, variety, mutual interest, etc.
Let's say that Specs "A" are sustained for quite a while during the marriage, again both sides are happy.
Then let's say after many years and 2 kids, the wife chooses to invent a new set of sexual specifications, Specs "B", which are significantly less then Specs "A".
Let's also say that Specs "B" are not a sustainable level for me to remain happily married, and that I'm willing to work on whatever issues my wife needs to return closer towards Specs "A" and that I'll compromise a bit here just that Specs "B" are at such an extreme it simply DOES.NOT.WORK.

Would you advise that I keep quiet on that? 
Or should I be honest about my need (which really hasn't increased from Day 1 of the relationship)?
Should I respectfully and openly discuss the issue and offer her some alternatives that maybe we both could live with?
For example: divorce?
Please let me know how SHOULD a man deal with a wife who decides to "cut way back" in the sex department.[/quote]

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