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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not know - but it may be a man/woman thing or it might just be your DH.

I am White and DH is AA.  I am keenly aware of some of the issues that he and my bi-racial DS face.  I have witnessed some personally.

My DH is LEO so he has a different perspective on some things and does not dwell on race generally.  He feels that he is a big boy and can take care of himself.  But even he agonizes about how our DS is perceived in the world.  Being his mom, I feel it too.  [/quote]

How does it feel to have a kid who will never identify with you or anyone you're related to?[/quote]

What are you talking about?  My kid is bi-racial and is proud of his AA and White roots.  He identifies with both and is close to both sides of his family.  In fact, it is folks like you that characterize him as AA. If you asked him he would say he is bi-racial. [/quote]

Your kid may identify as bi-racial, but unfortunately in the U.S. your son is black. [/quote]

Pretty much.  These desperate White chicks who like to separate the children by black men from black people are funny.  If the police are looking for a black man, you had better keep your son indoors because they will snatch him and beat his black ass.  He might as well be as black as Wesley Snipes in "one drop rule" America.[/quote]

PP here.  Not sure I even know how to deal with this statement other than to repeat what I said in my first post.  That I am very aware of what my AA and bi-racial son deal with every day and I know how society perceives my son.  I certainly do not try to separate him from Black people.  Not at all.  My son has a Black parent and a White parent, is well connected with both our familes and is comfortable with who he is.  But you are proving the point that [b]it is others, both Black and White, that are not comfortable[/b].  You have the one drop exactly right which is why I am aware of things. [/quote]

These others are in the majority.  As a parent of a biracial child, I have to say that it is dangerous to be a pollyanna about race in this country.  Even if he walked around holding a "my mother is white" sign, it would do him no good.  White privilege can't be passed to children who aren't 100% white.  You need to prepare him for this reality even if he identifies with both sides of him.[/quote]

Are you guyss actually reading my earlier posts?  [/quote]

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