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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh honey.

The child is a greater commitment than the marriage! Totally different ballgame...[/quote]

OP here.  So what are your thoughts now that you know we have a child?[/quote]

NP, but my thoughts are that marriage is completely irrelevant in your situation.  You are already bound to your child's father for the rest of your life (assuming he stays involved) and you are already responsible for another human being, which is life-altering.  Who cares if you get married or not.

I know this won't go over well with the - I'm a 50-year old grandma and it's awesome -  theme of this thread but to me getting married young is a separate issue from having kids young.  Lots of people meet the person they want to be with very young.  Having kids is a whole other thing.  Your life changes forever and there is no going back.  You will never ever again be young and carefree with no responsibilities in the world and nothing to do but explore the world, yourself, friendships, relationships, life, etc.  And no, I personally don't think living the empty nest lifestyle in your 50s is the same thing in the least.  But I am ready for everyone to tell me how wrong I am.  Rock on 50-something Grandmas.[/quote]

Honestly my early 20s was full of partying and wasted time. Time wasted sleeping all weekend and taking shitty trips because I only made 50k/yr.

I think it sounds pretty spectacular to be 45, well off and have the time and money to travel, drink nice wine, and have the luxury of a body that was not ravaged by kids in my middle age.

I have a good friend who had her first her freshman year in college. She went on to quickly have 3 more. Same dad. Still married. She managed to finish college though at George Mason over 6 years as she SAH. She's 44 and her and her husband have done really well. They take amazing trips and looking at her body you would never even think she had a baby. She has her whole life ahead of her. she is always somewhere warm and luxurious. Time and money are way better at 45 than 25. [/quote]

Totally disagree.  Things I did in my 20s that were not a waste of time:

Traveled internationally alone, which on some level scared the shit out of me but I did it and it was truly life changing
Moved to an entirely new city for a dream job 
Formed friendships that have lasted me decades - I still am close with many of the people from that period of my life

Sure, everything is less luxurious because you're not rich.  But that's the beauty of it too.  You're young and up for anything.  Now I'm old and I want to stay in nice hotels.   I really enjoyed having a lifestyle where I had a large group of amazing friends and we all had about the same amount of money and everyone was really just up for any adventure at any time.  I wouldn't trade any of that time.  [/quote]

How did you all "travel all over the world" in your 20s? I grew up in a pretty affluent family (went to Sidwell)  and when i was in my 20s I was busting my ass 12hrs a day at a job. I was building my career so that I now, at 38 get to work a cushy barely 40hr a week job. Sure, I studied in Spain for a semester and did a few trips with family whrn I was in college and on break. And then I of course did the cheap Caribbean party vacations.

How did you fund this world travel and how did you get so much time off?  did none of you work or did you have jobs at unicorn factories that gave you a teachers schedule with an executive package?  I have parents that are loaded and they expected me to get a job after spending, probably 600k on my education. No way were they going to fund me running around Paris and Istanbul for years on end. the only reason why I now have 6 weeks vacation Is because of years of service and being in upper management which affords me some nice perks.

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