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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is the purpose of marrying so young?  I'm not a fan of monogamy and I waited until my early 30s to get married. No way could I have married the guy I was dating at 23. Most people mature a lot in their tastes and preferences in their 20s.[/quote]

A number of reasons:

-Why wait? I found the person I wanted to be with. The pool only gets worse and worse as time goes on
-We did not want to be having babies in our 30s, for financial reasons and for the sake of vanity. Babies hardly phased my body.

In hindsight, we never felt that we needed to keep up with the Joneses.  We were 25 and had our first kid. We bought a small shit shack in Arlington (before prices were crazy) and we did not even notice that it was small and out of date, we were so happy to have a home together.

I SAH until I was the old age of 30 when I returned to work. My career never took a hit.  Plus we hit the jackpot when it comes to real estate by being so serious when we were young. We are now 45 & 46, one in college, one graduating HS this June. We have friends our age with toddlers and struggling with the cost of housing and living here. We're established in our careers, have a house paid off, and our boys got scolarships which has been an enormous windfall. I feel like we have a whole life in front of us, I'd do it this way a million times over. I have ZERO and I mean ZERO desire to be running after toddlers at my age. The only thing I'm running in are in triathlons. [/quote]

+1.  I totally agree.  I love having grown kids in my mid 40's.  Would not have it any other way.[/quote]

+2 and will love to have grandkids in my late 50s if it turns out that way.

I cannot even fathom what it would be like right now to have small children or even toddlers and then sending my kids to college when I'm rounding 60.[/quote]

PP--My own parents married at 22 or so.  They made it to 50 yrs the yr my dad died.

I was born when my parents were 45/42.  My sister was 16yrs older than me and I really did not want to be an older parent.  My parents started having health issues the yr I finished HS.  They were early 60's at my graduation.  I did not remember my own grandparents and I wanted my own kids to know my mom and dad.

There is no way I would want an infant at this age.  I admire the women that do it though.[/quote]

I think having a "young" mom myself influenced me. My mom is 59 and I'm 37 with a 12 & 10yr old. Luckily my parents are active and healthy and semi retired at this point. They are also local and have been an enormous part of my kids lives. Grandparents can be such a positive force in kids lives And my parents are no exception. You are smart to recognize that grandparents play an important role.[/quote]

Grandparents weren't important to me and wanting my ILs or my parents to be grandparents would never have influenced the timing of my childbearing. If I was from a close family, it might be different.[/quote]

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