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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks for the opinions.

Part of the problem is that this is an ongoing issue for us -- MIL also used to show up unannounced when DS was a baby, and I was half dressed while BFing.  She even let herself into the house once (back when she had a key before we had to change the locks for a totally unrelated reason).

We have had this conversation several times, but it keeps coming up in different ways.  It's obvious to me that we have different views of what's okay and normal.  This is partially why I wanted opinions from others -- because in my mind, she's being rude, but I understand that she doesn't see it that way.

DH has talked with her, but it doesn't seem to stick.  It lasts a little while, and then something new comes up.  I'm a pretty private person, and I really like to know what to expect from my evenings and when to expect visitors.  I feel like the terrible bad guy for wanting to keep her at bay because I know she wants to be with us and see DS.  It makes me mad that I have to either be a total jerk to her or do something that makes me uncomfortable, like be willing to have her over any old time.  I wish there was some other in-between, and it feels like she should be more cognizant of the fact that she's imposing, but she doesn't seem to be (or won't admit it even to herself -- I'm not sure which).

22:04, I can handle telling my DS no to the park, but I don't think it's fair for MIL to make me have to be the bad guy in a case like this.

And FWIW, DH is an only child, so the only other grandchild she's going to have will be any other kids we have, so I don't see this improving long-term based on that alone![/quote]
Why the fuck are you the bad guy if you say no to something ?
Saying No is part of parenting.
Honestly with all these rules you have it sounds line you need a little therapy[/quote]

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