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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Before going all crazy on her and your family, have you talked to your husband and has he talked to the ex? It might just need a simple conversation, but don't except the children to thank you for it. In fact they may end up being out of the house more to see her. [/quote]

+1.  Happened in my own family.  As the stepmom, I let my DH take the lead on a similar issue.  He took a hard line and made it clear that his ex was not allowed in the house at all and that all dropoffs/pickups happened outside.  Well, the kids did not see this as enforcing boundaries and such.  They saw it as their dad trying to marginalize their mom because he had a new wife. Heck, they could not even show her changes they made to their room, stuff on their computer, etc. So they gravitated more towards their mom and opted to spend more time with her at her house.  We had 50/50 joint but they eventually asked if they could stay there most of the time.  It hurt my DH deeply.

OP you married a man with kids who are close to their mom.  We understand that you want to set your own family dynamic.  Just be careful that you may get exactly what you want - with a price. [/quote]

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