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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would she care that he's going to a private school? He's in 8th grade and would be going to a different school anyway. If she was so dead set against it she would not have written the letter. [/quote]

Op I believe you. Have son tone it down and keep his head down. If you work with teachers much or volunteer in the schools much you'd be amazed how much jealousy there is.[/quote]

I've worked with lots of teachers and have been in tons of schools for decades and I'm unaware of this jealousy of which you type.

Is it jealousy of parents/children who go private? Parents who drive nice cars/seem to have money?

I've noticed some immaturity/insecurity towards other teachers but that was more office politics where people try to ass kiss to get ahead or be on the principal's good side. But I've never heard of jealousy towards families. For one, many teachers these days come from pretty good families, many marry well, some are financially independent and/or teach for giggles. To suggest they are jealous of families is ridiculous. Secondly, if they absolutely abhorred private school kids, wealth, etc they could always work in schools and districts with less wealth. Then they'd be looked up to and revered in the community.

But seriously, what type of jealousy do you see in teachers?[/quote]

The word was not jealousy.  The word was resentment.  Feeling insulted that we chose a chose a school other than the school system in which she teaches.  We don't have a large income, nice car or house.  We are making a sacrifice to go to private school.  The teacher probably drives a nicer car than us lol.  The analogy I would use is when an employee leaves to go to a new company.  Most coworkers will be happy for him.  Some may feel abandoned, resentful, (maybe jealous in this case).  In in our case, lots of teachers were proud of him, glad he got two choices.  Teachers like him and are interested in his success for the most part.  This particular teacher was the exception.  The prior post about DH was not from me by the way.   But it sounded pretty convincing!  But yes, we will have a discussion with the teacher.  That was always the case.  There may be something we don't know about, and we get to the bottom of it.  As parents we do want to know both sides of the story, of course.  But if my son's side is completely true, then I  would like to understand typical protocol when students need to make up work after an absence.  Our experience has always been easy, you get the make up work and see the teacher with questions.  It shouldn't matter whether the absence was due to an illness or a shadow visit.  Both are considered "excused" and should be treated equally, although I know many of you disagree with this.

I don't know if she resents my son's entry into private high school.  This behavior could be totally unrelated  I threw the question out there to see if anyone had that experience.  Apparently most do not.  But regardless, the teacher is still being extremely rigid and unreasonable, and we need to get to the bottom of why.

Thanks to the posters who were concerned and helpful.  And to the others, I am sure you had a nice entertaining evening letting off some steam.  Just because someone is an A student, doesn't mean he isn't entitled to the same help as a C student.  I don't buy that.[/quote]

I was responding to the poster who used the word jealousy-unless of course you just outted yourself [/quote]

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