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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would she care that he's going to a private school? He's in 8th grade and would be going to a different school anyway. If she was so dead set against it she would not have written the letter. [/quote]

Op I believe you. Have son tone it down and keep his head down. If you work with teachers much or volunteer in the schools much you'd be amazed how much jealousy there is.[/quote]

Thank you PP.  I actually never expected to come across this.  But perhaps like others said, it has nothing to do with the private school.  It is just that the timing of the problems happened right around the same time.  DS is not an aggressive kid.  He is actually pretty low key, hard working, and bordering on timid.  The only reason I got involved is because while he was doing homework he came to me and told me he didn't understand the new material (which he missed during excused absence) and when I asked him if he tried to get help, he told me she was not available.  Most teachers make themselves after school, before school, or during lunch for help.  This teacher was not available an any of these times (never after school).  For two days he tried to see her before school and during lunch and she sent him away.  Heartless?  Yes.  Resentful?  Perhaps.

As for the shirt, hmmm.  The kid is proud of his new school.  He has a right to wear the shirt.  Kids to to bar mitzvahs and wear the shirts the next Monday.  Nobody complains about that even though ids feel left out.  How is that any different?[/quote]

OP I believe you also, but I think you have the reasons wrong. The teacher is being mean because he is leaving and there is little you can do in the short time remaining. You also went over her head, so she is going to take it out on him. This happens frequently. I wouldn't advise wearing the shirt.
People are indeed very jealous of parents who go to privates. I won't repeat the things I heard when we told our community (friends and neighbors, church) but they reflected a deep and profound anger at the public school system and a sense of powerlessness to control it. And jealousy that we were leaving it. Some ugly things were said.  The other aspect was that people thought that in general we were poor or else struggling financially. Compared to the very wealthy parents at the private, we are not as well off. But we have adequate funds to pay for the tuition, which as you know, is significant. For some reason that really upset some people.
It has been 4 years ago now. It is a better education for my DS. And I have not had one incident like you are having now. Life is much more peaceful in school now.[/quote]

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