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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, when I was in college (10+ years ago) I missed my Granfather's funeral. I regret it to this day.

Thing is, I could not go. I had a shitty job that I may have been able to get out of for the weekend. But I learned about his passing five days before the funeral, and learned the date of it three days before. It was not possible to suddenly drop everything and fly down on such short notice.

Luckily, my family was very supportive. My grandmother told me, when I called to offer my condolences, that she completely understood I would have been there if I could, but she planned the funeral so quick afterwards for a reason (so she wasn't mourning for a month until it happened, and it could be over with).

It didn't mean that I "didn't fucking care" about my grandfather, I loved him. It didn't mean I didn't regret not being there, I still do. But maybe cut your son some slack? The fact that so few of his cousins showed up suggests to me that maybe there was more to this then just him saying "Fuck it." Maybe they didn't have much notice, or maybe his/their relationship with his/their grandfather as you thought.

To cut financial support seems like a drastic action to me.[/quote]

It's not drastic given what he has currently in the bank combined with his ability to work.  He'll be fine. [/quote]

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