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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Went on the third date tonight. Even more confused.

During the date, past relationships/relationships in general came up. He referenced how much he is wanting to see me, and said that he typically (and somewhat necessarily) moves faster - as his job requires quite a bit of travel, and he is on an in/out schedule - typically a few weeks out, then a few weeks back - he needs to spend time with someone while he's in town, because he can't when he's done. I said (and it's true, has nothing to do with the payment/planning thing) that I generally move a bit slower, and don't think that a date/week is unusual for the first few dates.) He said (again with the old-fashioned) that he doesn't like to sleep around or date more than one person at a time. I told him that I also don't sleep with multiple people at the same time, but basically assume that by default everyone that I meet online has at least one or two other people they are talking to/dating until we have a conversation deciding otherwise. He asked how fast I could see myself moving (and he didn't specify sex or exclusivity, but from what he said think he was referring to both) and I said probably about 6 weeks of dating. He asked me out for Tuesday during the date.

Again, I paid for myself (we were the last people in the restaurant, and while he seems to have no qualms about that, I feel bad when the staff are just sitting there waiting on us) so I couldn't just try the suggested "wait him out and see what happens" strategy - so I put my card out first, after about 20 minutes of the bill just sitting on the table. He walked me to my car at the end of the date, and gave me a hug (no kiss this time). Then he said he had a good time, and mentioned how much he likes being around me, and that he usually doesn't talk so much/long, and I said I had a good time, too - he asked "really?" but made no move for further physical contact. Also still no exchange of numbers. Did I mention I'm confused?[/quote]
OP he is a complete and total [b]loser who is trying to game you, for free, and just hit the right number of dates until the panties drop, for free[/b], and it's working. Drop him! What adult lets a bill sit on the table for 20 minutes? That's rude, woman or man, but especially for him because this is just his MO- he did this on the second date too. I have to believe you can do better- drop him.
Not to mention [b]with his work comments he's setting you up for the future fade[/b]; seriously don't see this loser again.[/quote]

All this. He's bad news. He's almost certainly in a relationship. He has basically told you not to expect anything from him time-wise, because of his "work schedule." He literally asked you when, exactly, you would have sex with him. He hasn't spent a dime on you in three dates. He hasn't given you his number. Are you even sure you know his real name - maybe when he (finally) dropped his credit card (after you dropped yours)?

He "said that he typically (and somewhat necessarily) moves faster - as his job requires quite a bit of travel." Lol. That's a new one. "You have to have sex with me quickly before I go out of town on one of my trips." OP, he's totally testing you and your gullibility. Be smarter![/quote]

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