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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Horrible advice. Everyone I know who has been married has had doubts and cold feet to some degree. It is one of the biggest life changing events people go thru and you're telling her to bail until she has NO doubts at all? Not realistic at all. I think you're projecting a bit.[/quote]

Maybe doubts about marriage in general are typical--but this is a case where the OP has had doubt for a year. Has expressed those doubts to family, to fiancé and to THERAPIST. Doubts not about being married in general, but about the character of her fiancé. I'd say that's pretty serious.  I don't know anyone who had doubts like that--who is still married. I know two couples where one of the partner expressed doubts before marriage/engagement in similar ways--one is now divorced, the other in a very unhappy marriage (and yes, got pregnant right away). [/quote]

Doubts are normal -- doubts about everything a marriage will bring, what if she ends up not wanting kids/what will DH say, what if DH is a slob etc. But doubts that force you into therapy before marriage?? Never heard of that. Doubts about whether he'll be nice to you and civil and respectful to you -- never heard of that either.[/quote]

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