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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here I have only discussed residential treatment with her because SHE HAS BROUGHT IT UP SEVERAL TIMES as a possibility if these last meds do not work (which so far they are not). She acknowledged things are getting so bad for the family that they are really leaning in that direction.

Then if one little thing good happens she immediately thinks things are getting better (which I understand her desperate need for optimism) but then within a few days it goes back to how its been.

I really want to say stop kidding yourself this is a lifelong affliction which hopefully can be managed with the proper meds/therapy but I feel she has still not accepted that end of it.

I am taking her next week on a desperately needed 2 day spa trip as a mental break from her torment. If she wants to talk about then we will but I am not going to bring it up, I think she needs a major break from thinking, breathing and living this.[/quote]
OP, I truly hope that you are just coming off wrong in your posts, but really mean well in real life. Otherwise, who the freak are you to tell a suffering parent in the actual situation how to feel???
It's not as if they are not doing anything, they seem to be trying everything. STOP TRYING TO REGULATE HER HOPES AND FEELINGS!
That is not your place.[/quote]

WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? You could not be more wrong!!!!! Regulate her hopes and feelings? No I am a friend and see her denial and the price it is costing both she, her family, her marriage, her health, it goes on. Its like a sinking ship where he is taking everyone done with him. Their younger son is suffering miserable and starting to engage in behavior that is questionable. I know it, she does not. I dont have the heart to tell her and burden her with one more thing.
Yes i see the writing on the wall and am not the only one. Her own sister has come to me about this. She too thinks she in serious denial. I am not alone in my thinking. I am here for her no matter what but am very very concerned about her at the same time.[/quote]

Obviously you don't care about what anyone here has to say about the situation, so go ahead and tell her. And I hope she then tells you where you can shove your ignorance so she can have one less toxic person in her life.[/quote]

You mean because she does not agree with you? Sad. OP if you believe in your heart telling her what you want to tell her will open her eyes or at least get her to think about things differently then do it you are in the end doing her a favor and doing it because you care. Maybe more people need to stop worrying about stepping on someone toes and pipe up about the obvious. Good luck.[/quote]

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