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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm surprised by this thread!  I divorced, and remarried - and most definitely upgraded, although that was the furthest thing from my mind while I was leaving husband #1.

I got married the first time in my mid twenties.  I married a fun guy who made me laugh, but who hid a serious anger issue and drug problem from me until things fell apart. I was devastated to get divorced, and never expected to be a single mom.

It took a few years before I was ready to date, but I dated for just a couple of years before meeting husband #2, who is about the best person I've ever known in life.  He's a year younger than me, adorable, and super smart. He makes me laugh just as much as the first hubby, but he's also reliable and kind and fair and successful.  He treats my daughter like his own, and we have two more kids together.  Life is really, really good.  He is a HUGE upgrade from my first husband - economically, physically, socially, everything.

ExH continues to struggle and flounder. He continues to be incredibly unmotivated work wise and has been arrested for domestic abuse. He has had a girlfriend for about five years now, but she is older and doesn't take great care of herself.  I think she puts up with his crap better than I did, but she's not much of an upgrade in any other way.

So yes, women who divorce stand a fine chance of upgrading.  I'm living proof.[/quote]

Good for you!  Yes, this is generally the pattern I've seen. The dude finds someone weak/desperate enough to put up with his crap, who is a downgrade in every other way, but considers it to be an upgrade because now he gets to be a loser and not be called out for it.  The woman generally realizes exactly what the danger of settling is and holds out for a better option without any serious deficiencies, generally resulting in a better partner who is an overall upgrade in every way. [/quote]

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