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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok I'll play too:

- Despite the fact that we both work full time jobs, you will be responsible for figuring out all of our finances and paying our bills, all laundry, dry cleaning drop-off/pick-up, grocery shopping, cooking of all dinners, planning all vacations and our social calendar, researching all vendors and booking them, making sure that our child has everything they need, etc. I will tell you that I will take care of things like garbage and cleaning up after dinner/dishwasher loading and unloading, but will really never do it unless nagged...which will follow with me getting huffy and obnoxious toward you.

- I know that when we were dating I used to buy you little gifts, be affectionate with you and give you compliments. But after we are married I will only buy you a gift for your birthday and Christmas,  I will instead buy myself all sorts of gadgets and whatever hobby I cycle through at the time. I won't even buy or pick out anything for our children from me. Oh, and no more compliments....you're just there.

- I know that I seemed like a really handy guy who took a lot of pride in his things. But after we are married, I will refuse to do home maintenance and repair. Weekends are for me to relax, you know. I will only help with keeping up our home if pestered about it and I can't put it off any longer.

- After we have a child, I will not have sex with you anymore. I won't explain why. When asked I will tell you that it's hard because i'm tired all the time and we don't want to wake the baby. When you get upset about it and feel rejected I will stonewall you and pretend like the issue doesn't exist. When sex comes on TV or in movies and creates an awkward silence in the room, I will bury my face in my tablet and pray to God that you don't bring it up again.

- Every night, I will eat the meal you prepared for us, bury myself in reading tech articles online and then fall asleep on the sofa by 9 pm and snore like a freight train like an old man. I won't ask you about your day, or watch a show with you.

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You sound like an enabler if you are doing all of the cooking,picking up his groceries, buying presents, etc.  Just STOP.  Go out and make friends.  Spend time with people who ask about your day.

Or get divorced.  He sounds like a loser.  You should show him your post [/quote]

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