Reply to Do you feel your husband appreciates you as a SAHM?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Do you feel your husband appreciates you as a SAHM?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a different PP, but I definitely knew my SAHM was unhappy. I remember hearing her crying in the locked bathroom during those afternoon times when she thought we were elsewhere in the house and not listening. It wasn't a magical or amazing or substantive or whatever time, it scared me and I knew (and later confirmed when we talked it over) she was deeply unhappy and intellectually frustrated. She was a great mother, but SAH wasn't good for her, and I knew that even then.

I WOH now, but I have also SAH. I honestly don't get the sort of fetishization of the after-school hours I see here on DCUM. I am sure in some families it is the prime time, but it never was for me growing up and it wasn't when I was a working parent either. My emotional prime time with my parents was late at night, just before bed, having conversations in the dark. My kids now do the same with me. They're much older now, but our late-night chats still continue, just as they did with my parents.

I don't understand the narrowness of thinking here. People don't structure their relationships and families exactly the same way, and that is okay. The afterschool time may be amazing, substantive, whatever for some families, and for some families it may mean a time where everybody is at low blood sugar or tiredness or whatever and not at their best. People make connections at times that work for them, not by some pre-set schedule.  [/quote]

You are right, every family is different.

We are a big game playing family. Just about each night after dinner we clean the dishes and play a few card and board games.  Between dinner and games that 60-90min has a huge impact on our family unit. Everyone is focused TOGETHER on something. Everyone is gathered around the table (yes, even dad, our dad participates in the family, including being home for dinner) Lots of laughter and bonding goes on at that time.

I'm not going to say if I'm WFH or SAH, but regardless, we'd all get the same great experience with the traditions we have created.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics