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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Man here and killing some time at the airport due to a delayed flight, I sometimes like watching you all duke it out.

One thing I'm curious about how is it these man cannot have career success without a SAHW? I'm a pretty successful guy and am a part owner/General Manager of a mid sized business. My wife also works full time and I've still managed to bring in 7 figures most years.

Granted we make enough money together that we just get to come home from work and focus on the family and not tedious chores like laundry and running errands (we have a housekeeper) and don't have to do the dirty work of running a house, but I have plenty of successful men working for me who also have wives who work as well.[/quote]

They can. It's SAHMs justifying themselves. No man HAS to work 90 hours a week. He just doesn't, unless he's incredibly inefficient. I also can't fathom a household where a man works like that and a woman doesn't offer to work too so they can both work regular hours.[/quote]

I'd say it's awful cavalier to act as if you know the situation of all SAHMs and the reasons they stay at home. Some careers do naturally entail more hours.

It's wonderful if the pp has a career where he is successful and his wife also works and that works for their family.  It's great if the other pp can work her working would curtail the amount of hours the dh worked, again that works for your family.

Whether I worked or not, Dh would still have his hours, at least for the next 10 years or so.  Could he quit and find some other line of work, yes.  But he wouldn't be as happy and him having to quit so I could go to work to take the load off wouldn't make his day.   Like I said, this thread is about appreciation.  He knows I've sacrificed a career and he appreciates me as a SAHM.  I'm happy to know I'm appreciated and I'm happy to do my part in this relationship.  He's happy, I'm happy.  No problems here.

It seems as if you are the one in need of some sort of justification for your situation.

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I would never be happy if my husband wasn't an active and equal parent. No justification here.[/quote]

Where did I ever state he wasn't an active, equal parent?  He may not be around them as much as me, but the time he spends with them is quality time.  Isn't that what all you WOHMs say anyway.  Those late night chats before bed, the cheering at soccer games, vacations together.  Geez.  When he's home, he's with them.  He reads stories to them, coaches soccer, builds legos with them, plays ball outside with them, makes from scratch waffles on weekend mornings, etc.

No justification needed, that's fine, because guess what?  [u]Your family choices work for your family.[/u]  Why do you assume then that SAHMs need justification just because they didn't make the same choice as you?  Why do you assume they are all not happy because that wouldn't make you happy.

I'm not sure why WOHM always seem to think that if we don't feel the same way that we are wrong and they are right.  DIFFERENT CHOICES FOR DIFFERENT FAMILIES.

It truly makes me sad when women tear each other down.

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