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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

I had my daughter write me a letter explaining her poor performance and we had a long family discussion last night.

Long story short, some of her past insecurities have gotten the best of her this past semester (worrying about her looks, how others view her, her skin complexion, etc). It's been a problem since middle school and, while I can coach her into feeling better about herself, she is terribly self conscious. In short, she's focused more on fitting in with her friends than focusing on school in an attempt to be cool to keep kids from talking about her.

She says she's straightened up and has been doing better since the last reporting period. My DH and I are seriously considering homeschooling her because I just don't see a way around getting her to get over these insecurities.

So, long story short...we're working on it.[/quote]

So I read this as she is feeling anxious while OP read it, again, as a character flaw - she's just worried about fitting in. I don't get it. OP clearly has never had her DD evaluated for LDs or mood issues, there are quite a few red flags here. She would rather thing her DD is dumb and superficial. I see a girl who has always struggled in school but who has never gotten the support she needs to succeed. Since she can't do academics because she's never gotten support she gets her self esteem from her looks and friends and rightfully feels the anxiety of grasping onto these fleeting things. And her mother refuses to get her the help she needs.[/quote]

OP here. I know DCUM loves to deal with mental disorders and disabilities, but my daughter is NOT suffering from any of these things. You don't have to believe me and that's fine. My daughter wants to fit in with the cool kids, hoping that it will keep her from being picked on about her skin complexion. If her friends aren't doing work, she won't. If they're talking, she's talking and being rude. She doesn't bother to bring books home.

As I said, it's NOT a learning disability. She needs to not worry so much about what others think of her. That will ONLY come from within. We've had talks with her about this but ultimately, she's the one attending school and she's the one who will need to deal with the issues because kids get picked on for all sorts of reasons. I've told her that if we need to step in and handle the school kids we will but it is NO excuse for failing. She understands, says she's since been doing better (she insists that the report card was a wake up call).

I am giving my DD the opportunity to prove she can step up and be responsible. As such, I will monitor her grades and see how the next few weeks go before I decide my next step. [/quote]

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