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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]didn't read any of the responses, but most women I know have a hard time covering off your checklist when there's a baby in the mix, not sleeping through the night or lots of little ones. You are just toast.

I do cook. I do spend a lot of engaging time with my tot outside of the house in the mornings. I do nap for about 2 hrs with him. My kids get up at 5:30 and I'm dead tired so I need the nap, whereas DH sleeps solid and doesn't touch them at night. Also by 3:30 I'm on homework duty with older child and extracurricular run arounds. Little time to have a perfect looking home. DH acts like nothing gets done but honestly it's hard getting all that done. My 2hr nap would be nice not to do, but honestly, I need it. I barely sleep at night. I want to go back to work desperately but not until these children are solid at night.[/quote]

For the hundred millionth time....no, plenty of women manage to do all of those things when they have a newborn and a young child. Many of them also hold down a job outside the house. It's just BS that you can't do laundry and cook and keep the house reasonably clean and have sex sometimes when you have young kids. [/quote]

I agree mostly, but I'm someone who has sex 4xs a week and often multiple times a day on the weekends which is pretty high for someone married 17yrs. When my kids were little babies and toddlers I had NO sex drive. None. I was exhausted and it killed my drive. I struggled to do it every 10 days. I'm thankful my DH did not put unrealistic expectations on me. He's quite happy now. All I needed was a good night sleep and enough rest to start back at the gym. Once that happened my drive cam roaring back, but it was a pretty dry couple of years there.[/quote]

But the solution is not to give up your paid job so you can be less tired and have more sex.[/quote]

Who said that was a solution to anything? Your response is not in line with what is quoted above.

Working or not working, many women have the same experience I did. Complete exhaustion that leads to a death of sex drive. Work status does not change the fact that most women don't get much sleep in the early years. If you did, you can count yourself lucky. Also if you were running around exhausted for a few years and then were happily slurping up blow jobs, more power to you. I'm just glad that I got over that and my drive came back with a roar.[/quote]

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