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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oral or good manual.

He doesn't like the idea of toys.

He isn't amenable to instruction. He'll say he'll do it but it doesn't happen.

For a few years, I thought he'd get on with it and practiced sexual unselfishness.

Then it all kind of dwindled.

If I tell him, do this or no blow jobs, he'll shrug and say, "OK".  He doesn't want sex that badly. [/quote]

That really sucks- my wife is very similar.  Of course when I've posted my frustration, women come out of the woodwork to chastise me for not trying hard enough and failing to meet her physical needs (which are almost non-existent).

I really hate the idea of "duty sex" but it falls into the spectrum (IMO) that if something is important to your spouse, there should be some kind of compromise.  For one spouse to dictate the frequency of intimate contact- whether it is too frequent or too infrequent- is not fair to the other partner.  Of course one partner has the right to refuse sex and the other partner should respect their decision.  But if one partner is never in the mood, it destroys a marriage.[/quote]

This only holds if you really are trying to meet your wife's needs physically.  Because here I am, never in the mood for the kind of sex my DH has to offer.   I'd be SO in the mood for a different kind of sex. But alas, he isn't interested, not really, in giving it to me. So here I am. [/quote]

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