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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1. It's old wives' tales, not midwives tales. Midwives are educated medical professionals who would most likely tell you to stfu about medical bands and epidural a because you don't know what you're talking about.

2. You can't trust doctors as medical studies but you trust old wives tales. Mmmmkay. You're not just an emotionally abusive, controlling misogynist, you're anti-science too. Awesome.

3. I seriously hope you don't have more children. I also hope when you do divorce her, at the custody hearing, you share all these opinions with the judge. Especially about what a bad mother she is for wanting to bottle feed, working on her masters, and using a maternity belt. I hope you say it loudly and repeat it many times in case the judge doesn't get it the first time.

4. Where are you from originally? Are you from a culture that generally oppresses women? Does your wife have the same cultural background?[/quote]

Thanks for the correction.  But there's a movement with natural births as well.  Such as Bradley Births and The Truth About Birth.  But as mentioned my wife choosing to go with the epideral isn't that big of a deal to me.  The issue was being fully aware of the consequences and the advice of the nurse.  Nowadays a lot of things in the medical field are watching out for their own best interest.  So it's important to advocate for yourself if you think something is not right or if there is a way you want something done.

Also my cultural doesn't matter.  As mentioned I've come to realize that it's important to look at family and financial backgrounds when considering sharing a life together.  Because a lot of time that will reflect if you will share the same values.

As for if my cultural is male dominant, other than maybe being trying to be controlling in getting what I want, I don't see how that is related to the issue.  As what I'm describing applies to both men and women.  Where as mentioned I took issue with the guy who criticized me not "training" my wife and doesn't help out his wife.  And know some families that are considered rich class, where the dad works tooth and nail to provide for an extravagant lifestyle.  The wives work too but honestly the lifestyle is maintained by the husband.  But at the same time it's an issue for the wives that the husbands are never home and spend time with the kids.  So my question is that kind of lifestyle worth it.

My own values, I value a strong family presence and every day possible.  Not pushing your kids off to whomever whenever possible and trying to make up for it by some expensive trip or big party.  Or in the case with our families, just the weekends.

And I know several families of several cultures who share this value.  So it's not a race or cultural thing.[/quote]

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