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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Omfg. Now you're blaming your wife for having a breech baby who needed to be turned, and for the umbilical cord being wrapped around the baby's neck. You're a piece of work.

What sources did you have about maternity belts? I googled and didn't see anything reputable saying not to use them. I know my doctor recommended I use one during pregnancy so they're not the evil you're making them out to be. What did her doctor recommend as far as wearing the belt is concerned? I'm sure you went to all the prenatal appointments and addressed your concerns with the doctor.

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As I said it's a midwive's tale but I believe there is truth behind it.  But who knows.  The baby may not have turned because the umbilical cord was around it's neck to begin with.  Where there was a post about and problems when trying to turn the baby.  Or maybe the baby sensed the unfriendly environment and didn't want to come out.  Who knows the point is if my wife listened to me and the baby still was breeched I wouldn't blame it on her and the belt.

And the doctor did say there were no issues with a maternity belt and you're right I wasn't involved much in the second pregnancy.  This was out of my choice and due to the issues we were having.  There was another aquantice who made the comment that I didn't train my wife properly.  I'll be the first to say that that's a dickheaded comment and I took issue with his style as well, where I had to help his wife with their baby before when she was trying to juggle multiple things while he was socializing.  But there is some truth behind what he said where if I wasn't as involved as I was, my wife would be forced to adapt do what was necessary to take care of the first kid.  But as mentioned the attention I gave to my first kid was my choice and decision based on what's important to me.

I wasn't going to mention this because know that I'll get slammed.

But I wouldn't just trust what doctors, nurses and studies say.  Or whatever the latest trends are.  For example it's said that c-sections are usually pushed for the benefit of the hospitals and not for the best interest of the baby.(also I know c-sections aren't that bad)

And for our specific case it had to do with epiderals.  Where while I wasn't crazy about the idea of an epideral, knew better than to put my opinion in it.  But an epideral was a big deal to my wife and was something that she demanded right when stepping foot in the hospital.

The issue is that for my wife's case the epideral shut down her body, where it stopped the contractions.  And I attribute that to the 16 hour labor and might've took a toll on my wife's body.

The second labor was unexpected and the hospital was real busy and swamped.  So the person with the epideral was not available and we had to wait for a while.  But the labor was moving along real quickly and everyone expected the baby to be delivered within an hour or two.  But my wife eventually got the epideral and with the epideral I warned her about using too much because it would slow down the contractions like last time.  My wife asked the nurse if this was true and the nurse basically wouldn't say and mentioned how her comfort was the most important thing.  But sure enough once the epideral kicked in the contractions stopped and prolonged the delivery.  Afterwards my wife admitted how she didn't know what a difference the epideral would make during her labor.

And that goes back to what I said about self sacrifice and the same traits that is needed to workout.  Where if you put up with the pain, it will be over with a lot sooner.  And I know I'm not the one that has to deal with the pain and not it's fair to make a judgement on this.  And it's not anything I really pushed for one way or another other than giving her the warning/reminder.

So you can't just go with what doctors and medical staff recommends and have to go with what you think is best and common sense.  And with things like midwives tales, I think they're based on something that leads to the beliefs.

So I know that I sound like a narcissist but I feel like I've been proven right enough times.

Another post described me as rigid and old fashioned and I admit that that is an accurate statement.

Anyways I'm done arguing and trying to get others to see my point.[/quote]

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