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[quote=Anonymous]I forgot to mention that as much as I'm getting beat up over the breastfeeding, the only difference between me and the nurses at the hospital was that my wife wouldn't say no to the nurses.  So while I would beg my wife to try to feed our baby, the nurses basically gave her no other option.  And being the new parents we were, we just weren't prepared in having formula and didn't get it until after the incident that required going back to the hospital.  I don't remember why we didn't get the formula.  We probably didn't foresee the issues that would come up with breastfeeding but I was also a firm believer in breastfeeding and was scared to use formula. (but that wouldn't have been the reason why we didn't have it)  And as mentioned in a previous post, this is something that is a point of pride for my wife now.

There was an article somewhere recently talking about how mothers don't get the attention they need or deserve after child delivery.  Where immediately after child delivery the focus is on the child.  Such as the focus on immediate skin to skin contact, breast feeding, etc.

I can't remember the point and details about the article but that's what I mean that's part of the sacrifices that come with being a mother.(the point of the article was probably opposite of mine)  I know it's easy for me to say and I'll lose some of the people who might've slightly supported me.

And it might be part of my narcissism, which I still don't agree with, but a lot of the issues I can point to being right.  Another time my wife declared her hatred for me was when she was trying to point out some of the things that I said or did but I was always able to point out how I was right.  And I guess that's a definition a previous poster used on narcissism.

But if I warn or tell someone to do something and they don't listen and what I warn about happens, you better believe that I'll be mad about it.

For example I mentioned issues during our second pregnancy.  It may be an old wives tale but it's a belief that maternity belts will prevent a baby from turning and not to use it. And when I found out my wife was using it kept insisting that she not and showed her the links that mentioned the issues with maternity belts.  But it was the same thing, "It's my body, you don't know what I'm going through"  But sure enough we had an issue where the baby wasn't turned by the doctor's deadline.  So had to go with the doctor's procedure to turn the baby.  I was uncomfortable with the procedure the whole time because of the risks involved and what I read online about someone with a case where umbilical cord ended up getting wrapped around the baby's neck.  But in the end, agreed that it was better to go through the procedure rather than risk having a breach birth.  During the procedure, I heard the nurses and doctor kept mentioning how the baby's heart stopped during the procedure and whenever I brought it up to my wife she dismissed me.  But later on sure enough when the baby was born, the umbilical cord was wrapped around it's neck and would've required a c-section of the baby didn't make it out by the time it did.

Wether or not this was due to the maternity belt is debatable.  But my point is that if you don't listen to me and it looks like what I was warning about happens, you better believe I won't be happy.

And that's basically what sparked our argument the other night, which wasn't child related.

Anyways update on us.  I think we might be okay but we'll see(thanks for the posts that supported us).  You might gather that we fight a lot but this time I decided to air some dirty laundry (in hopes of getting some support).

I know some of you all feel for my wife and kids.  My wife does say I'm controlling.  For my kids, one of the things about a constant presence might be controlling.  But I don't see that as necessarily a bad thing and want to raise them properly.

If you all think my issue was being emasculated, my wife making more money, or wanting my wife to give up her career and stay at home, you completely missed my point and situation.  It might've been because I didn't communicate clearly and I know some of my posts were long and rambling.

My point is that being a parent is not easy and requires sacrifices.  For mothers more so than others in that they have to give their bodies as well.  And I think a lot of people lose sight of that nowadays.[/quote]

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