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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know if it was postpartum or the stress of a 16 hour delivery.

But after our first kid was born my wife wouldn't feed the baby.  I kept on trying to wake her to feed the baby but she would always refuse and just sleep for a while.

Part of it is on me, where I may have put too much emphasis on breastfeeding instead of formula.

Anyways after a couple of days our first kid lost a lot of weight and was very lethargic.

So required going back to the hospital to stay for a couple of days.  There the nurses would force her to wake up and feed the baby until he got back to a healthy weight.

As for the staying at home.  Like I said I get it and posted in the other thread about the dad who used to take care of the kids and now looking for a job.  While I'm not crazy about my current job the pay is good for the work I do.  The salary than can be used to leverage future jobs if needed or at least continue growing on it.  And I'm in a field where it's important to stay up to date with the current changes and updates.

And I know that a lot of the things daycare related is just temporary until the kids go off to school but even then there will be concerns about before and after school care.  But we can get through it.

My wife was better with the second kid, which I'm not sure why she wanted because she didn't even take care of the first one.

But even when we were at the hospital where the first one was born, there were records of what happened with the first baby.  So the nurses and staff kept on reminding about that and making sure the  baby was being fed.

The issues I mentioned on here might not seem like that big of a deal but as mentioned there are some other underlying issues related to it.

Anyways I really just need my time to go to the gym and other than that can handle the rest.  Other than needing her milk for the second kid (sorry if that doesn't good).

So have my course of action.  I was originally going to go to the courthouse today to file for divorce but will hold off on that.  But primarily just for the kids in hopes that things may get better.[/quote]

You're insufferable.  First of all, it's also your fault if your baby wasn't getting fed.  When you realized your wife was tired (depressed or whatever), you should've stepped up, bought some formula and fed your child.  But it sounds like you have this idealized notion of how a mother should be.

You don't sound willing to sacrifice your career or even your gym time, and you have the nerve to complain about your wife?

And if you were so unhappy about how your wife was with the first child, why did YOU have a second one.  It isn't like your wife made a baby by herself.

You sound passive-aggressive, old-fashioned, terribly rigid and judgmental.  You are part of the problem.

No wonder she wants an education and a career.  She probably doesn't want to be trapped with you or reliant on you or have to have you dictating what she should be doing during the day.[/quote]

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