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OP - I am a Mom of two girls who we paid for weddings and one of the oldest is now the Mom of girl twins exactly the same age as your daughters.  Even on a GREAT day at a loca wedding, they would be hard pressed to necessarily enjoy a day full of wedding events AND their Mother and Dad, too.  Adding a long plane ride AND then a couple of hours of driving, would be a great recipe for two, over-tired children having a horrible time and if your sister is lucky becoming the center of attention through no fault of their own.
A destination wedding is usually an event aimed at adults, and it is putting a lot of unnecessary financial and other burden on you, DH and the kids.  RSVP for one unless you and your husband want to extend time at the location for a bit of a "child free" vacation break.  I would encourage my daughter and SIL to do so.  In fact, we are planning to sit for them in early 2016 so they can go to Peru to the in-country wedding of one of my niece's who will be residing there in the future.  Why -- because the wedding will be a very, very lavish affair more for the 30's, professional and monied crowd than for 60+aunts and uncles.   They are in, in fact, helping to watch a younger sibling who has a disability and resides with us while we go to Europe in May.    Basically, you need to consider your nuclear family's dynamics, your family budget and what you can reasonably do for extended family.  We have already sent a very nice gift for another nephew who is getting married in the Bahamas in May.  In our case there are 17 nieces and nephews so we will do the best we can, but not to all and not all of us to all of the weddings in every case.[/quote]

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