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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All the reasons said in this thread before.

Also, I'm very happy that the financial and legal rights afforded to married couples exist, and I'm happy that those financial and legal rights [i]do not[/i] apply to unmarried cohabiting couples.

Why? Because those financial and legal rights lend a sense of permanence to the living arrangement. It means that you are one unit, one household, one family. An unmarried couple rarely intends to be perceived as a family. Mostly the reason they're unmarried is because they always have one foot out the door, not because they have religious objections to marriage. (I hate that this OP makes marriage a religious issue - it's not).[/quote]

I never made it a religious issue.  My point is that it isn't up to you to define what a real family is.  It isn't up to you to decide what the rules are.
Marriage means that you get some tax and legal benefits.  It doesn't mean that your relationship is more important or permanent than someone else's.[/quote]

Yeah...it [i]does[/i] actually. Making financial and legal commitments to another person means your intertwining your life with theirs in a way that is very difficult and expensive to extricate yourself from. That's called commitment. That's called [i]permanence[/i], in fact. Nobody is arguing that some marriages are made for the wrong reasons or some marriages don't last but at the same time, nobody in their right mind is going to argue that your average LTR couple is more likely to define themselves as a family than your average married couple.[/quote]

It's permanent until it isn't.  My longterm boyfriend IS my family, whether you like it or not.  It doesn't matter how you classify it.
Marriage is reversible.  My partner and I are as committed to each other as you are to your husband/wife.  You can't make these generalizations.[/quote]

NP here.  If you have actually gone through all the legal hoopla to make it as close to legalities conferred in marriage like named beneficiary for each other's retirement savings and have wills naming each other as beneficiaries and have joint accounts and debts and have the documents to make life or death medical decisions if the other person is incapacitated and have a fair division should you split up ...then I will agree.  I'll be honest it wasn't until I did estate planning that I realized how much trust legally speaking you put in your spouse versus a boyfriend.  That said, there may be plenty of reasons you don't want that level of legal intertwining.  As a PP mentioned if I'm older I probably have more to lose by getting married.
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