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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG, is there anyone on this thread who DID NOT go to an Ivy?[/quote]

Yes, plenty, I'm sure, like my dh and I - both went to no-name state univs, both in STEM fields.

In some ways, I do understand what OP is saying.  When a parent has a child, the parent expects to some degree that the child will be like one of the parents, be it physical or non-physical traits.

My DC#1 is very much like us, both physically and academically - has STEM interests.  DC#1 is in HGC  now.   DC#2, however, is nothing like either of us.  DC#2 is all about the arts:  drawing, singing, dancing.  Not much interest in STEM.  DH and I jokingly ask each other: whose child is this?  I expose STEM related activities to dC#2, and sometimes, DC is interested and sometimes not.

I read an article about how the most successful (financially/academically) people in life are not those that are the smartest, but those that work the hardest, have perseverance.  So, this is what I am trying to instill in my kids -- try your best.  I think that's why that Asian poster stated that you have to be like a "tiger mom", because some parents realize that working hard is more important than smarts.

I'm not advocating OP be a tiger mom to a 5/6 yr old.  I am not one, either.  But, just because a kid isn't "smart", it won't mean that kid can't be a success in life, and yes, success is defined differently for different people.  I think the most important thing you can do for your child is to teach them to try their best and work hard.

In the grand scheme of things, being happy and content with your life is more important than financial/academic success.  But, you have to find a balance.  I think that's one of  the hardest part of being a parent... trying to find that right balance of pushing your kid to their fullest potential and making sure they are "happy".[/quote]

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