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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a partner, not senior associate, DH should have more control over his schedule. He will still work long hours, but is not at the back and call of a partner. Also, there are female partners who are still the default parent, in the sense that they are the ones who keep track of schedules, appointments, kids clothes, parties, presents, etc. sure, they have full time nannies, but they are still managing the household while being partner.

BTW, I know of big law male partners who still have time to coach their kids sport teams or volunteer on school committees.

Parenting is gendered, whether you are a big law partner or not. This means, OP, that if DH has enough time to get a coffee at Starbucks or had enough time to join a football fantasy league, or watch games on the weekends, he has enough time to go onto amazon and buy some presents for your kid. He just thinks he doesn't have to because it's a mother's job more so than a father's job.

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No, he is at the beck and call of the clients, which is the same thing.  Yes, OP's husband has time to shop online, but in the big picture, she will have to be the default parent unless he changes jobs.[/quote]

Not saying she won't be the default, most women are. But, it is undeniably true that being an associate means you have far less control over your time than a partner.[/quote]

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