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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a similar situation with my DH and in-laws, including infertility, to the point I wondered if I had changed details and had actually posted this!

- We don't know how/ why the husband told the MIL (do we)?
- The issue is with the DH; he went out of the bounds of marriage and broke trust. Yes, it IS a big deal. Maybe the PPs who are saying "You are a ninny' are either weird,. in terrible relationships, or just trolling to be mean (I Guess the last one)
- Many in-law relationships change around pregnancy/first babies, so I wouldn't nec. ascribe everything to this lie (although it sounds like a biggie it may have happened anyway)
- It was a terrible think for your MIL to ask be lied about , and a terrible thing for him to agree to lie about (telling her about something going on in your body w/o your consent). 
- If this is in anyway, shape or form emblematic of your relationship with your DH, I'd find a good therapist for help now- better to have overkill on something as important as trust and betrayal and your reproductive system  (before you turn into a meanie poster yourself)! 
- TO answer the matter at hand, I think you need to talk to your  husband about whether the three of you speak together- your saying, I have already addressed DH's betrayal, he stands me up 100%, now I need to address yours b/c I want to have a real relationship with you or if your husband talks to her without you.
- I don't think you will ever have a good relationship with this woman, unless you are exceptionally good at forgiving and there is a real basis for solid relationship here (Which it sounds likethereis not after the last 2 years). Still if you feel like you are seething inside everytime you see her perhaps a conversation could get you to socially-less-difficult relationship.[/quote]

Thanks.  I already know the trolls are fierce in this forum so I expected it.  I should probably just ignore.[/quote]

No, no dummy, a troll isn't someone who disagrees with you or tells you something you don't like.  A troll is someone who posts inflammatory or untrue things to purposefully start arguments.  Understand now?[/quote]

I'm the first PP quoted. I don't understand what is wrong with some people here. OP came for honest advice, and people are just trashing her. I get the impression that honestly and trustworthiness are important to the OP. She's clearly hurt. Why call her names (come to think of it, why EVER call people names)? when the immediate PP says "a troll is someone who posts inflammatory things," wouldn't calling someone names be considered inflammatory? (Or is it okay because it's "true"?)[/quote]

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