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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG.  OP.  Holy crap.  You are NOT hearing folks here.

OP, if you  have a son, you may understand someday that your loyalty to him will trump your sense of responsibility to anyone else.  So if your son tells you a secret and asks you to keep it a secret, you are going to protect his secret, even if you wish he wasn't keeping it a secret.  Your loyalty will be to your child, not his wife or anyone else.

Your DH violated your trust by telling his mother a secret that you didn't want her to know yet.  She stayed loyal to her son and protected the secret.  She's a bad actress but she did nothing wrong...or, even if it was wrong to some degree, her loyalty to him trumps her sense of it being wrong to you.  In short, she chose to wrong you in order to avoid wronging him.

I don't know any mother who would choose differently.  Accept that your MIL will always be more loyal to your DH than to you.  That's as it should be.  But your DH should be more loyal to you than to his mom.  HE is the only one you need to work anything out with.  She owes you nothing, least of all an apology.[/quote]

My mother would choose differently, as would I.  Lies are bad.  Lying to your wife about something she cares about is very bad.   That doesn't bode well for anyone.  It's pretty simple.[/quote]

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