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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:

It's not victim blaming to expect women to be part of the solution.

Please explain. Men are the ones raping. Men are the ones who need to stop. That is the solution.

You mean SOME men are raping. True. That definitely needs to stop and these criminals need to be prosecuted. But because we don't live in this idealized, perfect world some of you are imagining (the "if only everyone would band together and stop raping, problem solved"-mentality) and there will unfortunately always be SOME men who continue to rape, I plan on teaching my young daughter how to protect herself as much as possible when she goes to college. [b]I've already taught my sons how to respect women, how 'no means no', and how to step in if they ever witness a situation such as rape (or any kind of assault). [/b]They know not to binge drink. They are ready to do their part.

I'm not going to presume that my daughter doesn't need to know anything about self-preservation. She'll need to know how to always stay in a group, not to binge drink, not to go anywhere alone with a man she's just met, especially "upstairs" at a frat, and if none of the above help her stay safe, she will be councelled to call 911 immediately if the worst happens and she or anyone she knows is raped. The police and doctors need to be brought in, a rape kit and statements need to be taken. I'm sick to death of hearing about all the reasons girls/women don't report rape. It's been discussed ad nauseum on this thread and WE GET IT. Now we need to councel our daughters that the best way to prove a rape occured, get a conviction, and prevent the same person from raping again is to report it immediately. Those of you that want to call this "rape apology" or "victim blaming" need to have your heads examined. I hope to God that my daughter and yours are never raped. There are few things more painful to have to recover from. But because we live in the real world, my husband and I are hopefully going to equip her the best way we can to protect herself. [/quote]
You should rethink that part. Do you really think the every man rapes poster would see your son as different than the rapist? No your son is male and will most likely be seen as trying to fight off the rapist so he can rape. Best for him to leave the area and do and say nothing.

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I'm the PP and you're probably right.  Those are the same people who call it "victim blaming" when parents warn girls not to binge drink and show up at frat parties.  Funny, and I thought that was just common sense!  Never mind that we're warning our boys to also not binge drink and show up at frat parties.  The man-hating, "every man rapes" posters are seriously frightening.[/quote]

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