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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread was so therapeutic for me to read, I'm a little teary-eyed right now.

I'm 25 years old and have the same chip on my shoulder as the OP, except it's much worse (maybe because my "shame" is so recent and I'm not very far in my career yet). I also came from a snobby background (like a PP described: elite private school, summers on Martha's Vineyard, four generations of wealth, etc). I underachieved in high school and ended up going to one of the U Mass schools.

Massachusetts is full of elite private schools (Harvard, MIT, Boston College, Wellesley, Tufts, Amherst, Mount Holyoke, Boston University, etc) and my family was VERY disappointed in me for not getting into even one of those schools and being forced to attend a U Mass school. I felt like a worthless person and still do.

I had a good time in college and I know, rationally, that my classmates were as smart and well-rounded as anyone from an elite school, but I can't help but feel that I have this stain on my record which I will always struggle to overcome and I will always be judged by the mediocre state school I went to. I'm intensely jealous of my peers.[/quote]

So what are you doing now? You actually sound like a very entitled millennial. I hope that you have a job and take care of yourself instead of becoming a deadbeat because of your shame. [/quote]

I don't think OP sounds entitled.  She's wearing her insecurities openly, and it sounds like that makes you uncomfortable, as if they might be contagious.

I will say that DCUM is perhaps not the best place for people seeking assurances about their social, financial or educational status to visit. [/quote]

For 98% of the population of the US, UMass is fine. The only people who really "look down" on where you went to school are upper[middle]class people who live in DC and the northeast. Outside of this bubble, no one cares. I was born in the northeast, but raised in other parts of the country. The way people view college is completely different. The level of "keeping up with the joneses" is so much less outside of this bubble.[/quote]

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