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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry OP.  I get where you're coming from.

I think how you feel about this will evolve as you see how your friend interacts with you.  Even if your wedding is difficult for her for some reason (finances, emotions b/c she is single, whatever), does she remain a good friend?  Does she continue to reach out to you over time and emphasize, on her end, that nothing has changed?  If so I suspect you will be able to relatively easily move past the hurt you're feeling now.  You sound like a good person with a good head on your shoulders.

Now, if you continue to be the friend you've always been to her, and her behavior is not the same, you will know there's more going on than just difficulty affording your wedding (which frankly I suspect there is).

I would try to be gracious right now and see where it takes you.

I had a semi-similar experience--one of my very best friends called a day before my wedding to say she couldn't make it.  She told me she was sick.  I was super-sympathetic, told her to feel better soon and we'd catch up later.  I NEVER heard from her again.  I sent emails, called, nothing.  My only sibling died a few years later and when I wrote to let her know she never responded.  She posts regularly on Facebook so at least is still alive and has a job and friends.  Obviously there was more at work but I never found out what.  The experience taught me that often you just don't know what's going on with people and all you can do is be the best person you can be to others.  Some things are not in your control.

I hope you have a wonderful wedding!   Trust me, on the day you will almost certainly focus just on those who are there, not on those who aren't.[/quote]

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