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[quote=Anonymous]You know, if you do not say anything to her and decide to keep this inside...All that will do is end up building up inside you over the years until one day you will simply boil over in anger and let her have it! In the meantime, you will become more bitter toward her and resent her over + over.

Do not let this happen to you. You both deserve much better.

I would address this issue sooner rather than later.

When you decide to bring it up, make sure you choose your words AND tone carefully because if she gets the feeling that you are accusing her of anything, then you risk offending her and thus losing a great friendship as well.

Simply and diplomatically let her know she means a lot to you as a friend and that her presence at your wedding means a lot more than anyone else. Perhaps ask her if there are any ways she can compromise anything in her finances between now and next March to try to be there for you. Suggest your idea of perhaps splitting some of the hotel expenses w/mutual friends. She may not have thought of that. When speaking to her about this, you will get a much better picture of if she really is in bad financial straits or is just trying to bow out gracefully.

If it is the latter like you partially suspect, then you may want to tactfully dig a little deeper to see what may be the real reason she is holding back.

You may not get the answer you are looking for and that is fine. But it is worth trying to get because like I stated before, if you do not address this now, you will subject yourself to years possibly, of bitterness which could erode this friendship anyway.

Good luck.[/quote]

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