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She isn't lazy.  He said she's a wonderful mother.  No "wonderful mother" is lazy.  None of the other options make the "tell her to lose weight and put out or divorce her" course of action make sense.  On the other hand, it seems quite likely since that's his approach that he's a lazy, selfish slob.[/quote]

Wonderful mothers can absolutely be lazy wives. It's a matter of priorities. I'm a hard worker when it comes to my job but utterly lazy when it comes to, say, cleaning my car. I like and care about the former and am utterly indifferent to the latter. [/quote]

That's not laziness.  That's lack of interest.  She's not a lazy person generally.  She's not interested in intimacy with him.  So, the question is why?  From what I've seen of him, I can think of a few reasons.  We haven't heard from her (that we know of).  If you're committed to your marriage, then you try to figure out why.  And that may require some change on your part.  But he's not interested in that.  He's only interested in telling her to change to suit him, and who cares what's making her uninterested.  That's selfish, and the marriage will fail.[/quote]

X100000000.  This, a million times over.[/quote]

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