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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"The advice that I will give a lot of you probably will not register for a few years, but here goes. If you want to have a good relationship with your DH and just a peaceful marriage, a lot of you need to learn to delegate properly. My marriage is not perfect but this is a skill that I learned after a few years. DH is pretty active with household stuff anyways, but if I ask him (not tell) him to do something, I do not tell him HOW to get the task done and if the task is done within reason, I do not critique it. Now if he really screws it up (which is rare) I mention it to him, but not in a negative confrontational posture. One example is that my DH uses the dishwasher and I prefer to hand-wash. Thus, I know that if I need him to cover the dishes, he is going to do it his way. And if I want it done MY way, I should be prepared to do it myself. I am just not sure it is constructive for a person or a marriage to micromanage to that degree."

OK.  But wouldn't you agree that shoving the popcorn off to the side instead of picking up falls into the "screw up" category, and that you would nicely mention that you wouldn't have handled it that way?[/quote]

PP here.  Nope.  I would not necessarily agree.  Of all the things in a marriage that could actually be "screw-ups," this would not be one [u]for me[/u].   It seems that he swept it in with the grass clippings and mulch.  And in our house, if there was some negative consequences, he would deal with it.

But if I did think it were a screw up, I would NEVER expressly say that I would not have handled it that way.  More of a light " Hey dude, I thought you were going to pick that up."[/quote]

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