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[quote=Anonymous]I think you're right to stand up for yourself OP.

Is your brother's work paying for his conference expenses? It's sort of a weird logic to expect your work to pay for YOUR travel expenses, but not do the same when people are coming to work for you. And I understand that family helping each other isn't "a job," but the help shouldn't come at a burden (financial or otherwise) to the person giving help.

Is the conference not a work necessity, and he's paying for travel expenses himself? Then he shouldn't go, if he can't afford childcare (which includes airfare for you and DC).

Family is great, and it's nice to have them to rely on, but you can't take advantage of them. Just because relatives can help you, it doesn't mean you're off the hook for being decent and considerate. I've had to outline this for some of my family members. In general, people get defensive when you call them out bad behavior. We like to think that family has the best intentions, but sometimes they don't. Boundaries are important, otherwise people will continue to overstep them and ask more from you - always at your expense (and not theirs).

Good luck. Stick up for yourself. [/quote]

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