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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another Indian here who was never allowed to take food out of the dining area.  Same for every single Indian family I've ever known, however like the rest of the world, each family does thing differently.  We don't all have the same experiences because we hail from the same country.  Do you and all your neighbors have the exact same family rules, everyone in your community, everyone in you county, your state?

For all of you that are so curious about how this Indian grew up-  I'll say that I helped out around the house a lot, cleaned, vacuumed, dusted, did dishes, started doing my own laundry by the time I was 8.  But none of this was 'expected', it wasn't due to a chore chart or anything.  I was a latchkey kid and I was bored so that's how I spent my time after making my own snack and watching a little TV.

My Indian husband did all the handyman type jobs around his house.  He'd read a manual or ask neighbors for their experience and fix/build things.

There was no helicopter parenting, our parents worked long hours.  School was important, that was a given and we always did our best.

We didn't have strict rules for bed times and could go to sleep whenever, but we had strict rules with regards to going out- no night time parties, no boyfriends.  Hanging out at the mall with girl friends (during the day) and sleepovers were fine.

We took fun vacations, visited family frequently, always had people over on the weekends for dinner or lunch, and played outside a LOT.

Now it's your turn, white Americans- how were you raised? Parented?

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This is pretty close to my experience.  Though I did go to parties/out with boys (sometimes without my parents knowing, sometimes with...though the latter only if they knew an adult would be around).  If we're going to generalize experiences, I wonder if there is a difference between Upper Middle Class families with a WOHM and not.  There was no way I could get away with having studying be my only "job".  There were dishes, laundry, and general tidying up to do.  Not to mention fixing my own snacks etc as a latchkey kid after school.  I think my Indian friends with SAHMs were a bit more coddled than me, but not neary as dysfunctional as some of the childhoods that have been described here.

And seriously with the eating in your room...what's that all about?  I don't even get why that's something you would want to do, but whatever.  DH and I often eat in front of the TV (or did pre-baby when dinner wasn't the only time we could talk to each other), and my mom thought it was the most horrific thing ever.[/quote]

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