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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Even if op is a troll, this situation is the norm. Once society crossed the line and said sex before marriage was fine, all bets are off. Everyone now just judges everyone else. They slut shame people or freak out if people come on too strong and want a serious relationship. If OP had ditched guy 2 and 3 right away then guy 1 would have gotten the vibe that OP wanted a serious relationship too fast. Dating is such a game to people and everyone judges. But the stakes are high because you are looking for a lifetime partner someone you will have children and grandchildren with. Who cares who she dates. No one wins until they find the person they will stick with. [/quote]

+1 ... and the choices that women make in their love/sex lives are held up to [i]much[/i] closer scruitiny and judgement than the choices of men.[/quote]

I am 11:46. I'm not judging her sex life at all. I'm simply suggesting why guy 1 was shocked to see her on a date, and also to suggest that she would have been hurt if she saw guy 1 out with another woman. I couldn't care less who she has sex with or how often. But this was a thread to discuss her situation, so the simple act of discussion will carry with it some opinions on the defensibility of her actions.[/quote]

Here are few comments made in this thread ... not by you, and maybe all by the same poster, but tell me -- would a man ever face this kind of judgment about his sex life?

[i]yeah, he's done with you. take heed to the lesson you;ve just been taught.

You sound and act like total trash.

It depends on guy number 1's self-esteem. If he has none, he'll deal with being second fiddle (and she'll continue to fantasize about guy #2 until she ultimately gets with him again).

This girl is the epitome of everything that keeps getting discussed over and over. Wants to take things slowly with guy 1, but immediately has sex with guy 2 and guy 3.

Same scenario, different woman, over and over and over. If guy 1 has brains, he will run.

op is trying to justify her slutty was by being around a guy she wants to go slow with.

she is a doormat and likes that. if she wanted a guy like #1 she woudl have stuck with him and not put out with the ass hole guys.  [/i][/quote]

I'm a guy who posts somewhat frequently.

Men are not just as likely to come here seeking relationship advice.  But those who do and once the truth comes out, if their behavior is outrageous or disrespectful, they get hammered.  Admittedly there are some women who just hammer away at men regardless - like some men do to women on certain topics.

But wrt to the passages you quoted - what exactly is offense with what people posted as response (apart from a couple of over-the-top/nasty remarks)?  If you spend enough time here, you do see this scenario get played out over and over again.

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