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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of you have a seriously sad and depressing view of family relationships.  Why have children if you cut them loose at 25? Do they stop being your children and needing love and support because they are grown up?  [/quote]

Um yes. [b]They stop needing love and support from their parents when they have spouses and children. [/b]
I had children to raise them. Through CHILDHOOD. [/quote]

So just out of curiosity, are there any lifelong relationships that have love and support? I find this view of family as floating islands breaking off of each other with each generation to be depressing and cold. My husband's family is like this and its hard for me to understand why people prefer this over the alternative of loving, warm and supportive across generations. I know that someone will respond about mettlesome mothers, boundaries, etc. but that's not the the same thing and doesn't have to be the case![/quote]

Sure, my spouse and I plan to be each other's life-long support. As to children - I love them. I am sure I will love my grandchildren. But just as now, as a grown-up, I am fine not seeing my parents every day, I will be fine not seeing my grandchildren/grown-up children every day. Would I like to see them on a regular basis? Sure. Would I want to be an unpaid childcare worker for them all the time? Nope. [/quote]

There is plenty of possibilities between those two options.[/quote]

Precisely what I was thinking.  PP is a dramatic ice queen.[/quote]

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