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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here...thanks for the insightful responses.  Posting on DCUM I knew I would get the snarky remarks but I know myself and my intentions well enough not to let the nastiness bother me.  The truth is I am not looking for free babysitting at all.  DH and I work and I have a nanny who watches my kids when I work.  We pay her on weekends and even some over night times when DH and I needed our date nights.  I think I have asked my parents to babysit 4-6 times in the last 4 years.  And, when they have accepted, I usually throw in "I'll cook you dinner" just so it makes it easier on them.  I am a very empathetic and accommodating person.  I understand that they want their own life and babysitting may not be their top priority.  It just makes me sad that I don't have the type of parents who WANT to spend time with their grandchildren as much as I see other grandparents doing.  Because they live close, I always get the comment "you are so lucky to have your parents close by so that they can babysit and see your kids all the time".  It makes me sad that this isn't the case.

I have said something to my mom one time about her being retired for over a year and not once offering to come over and see us.  Her response was "I'll meet you half way at the mall."  So, I asked her if she is scared to drive on the beltway because I can give her the back ways to our house too.  She said she wasn't scared but thought it would be easier to meet half way. And then went on about having to return something at the mall anyway so it was easy for her. So it goes back to the fact that they will see me and my children when it is easy and fits in their life.   I always suck it up and "meet half way" or bring them over to their house.  My kids are really well behaved and they love when I bring them to their house.  So, this isn't about having misbehaving kids or wanting free babysitting.  This was just a way for me to vent and see if there was helpful advice or families who can relate. [/quote]

OP, my feelings would be hurt if my parents were like this too. You want them to WANT to spend time with your kids. My mom loves to have DC over, but some of my friends have parents who only want grandkids around for photo ops.

So you're not alone.[/quote]

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