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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guys, as another "ugly duckling," I think you're putting too much stock in the "you're beautiful the way you are!!" approach. That's what my parents did, and it made me feel worse, because I wasn't blind or stupid. I could see how I looked, and it made me unhappy. Constantly being told "no! You're beautiful" or "it's what's on the inside that counts" just made me feel patronized and alone, because it clearly wasn't true, and I wasn't allowed to talk about how I actually felt or get any help with real solutions to my problem areas. I'm not saying that parents should start leaving brochures for plastic surgeons on their kids beds, but just toeing the party line isn't the answer either. It's a balancing act between acknowledging the realities of your kids appearance, the fact that society (and especially kids) can be cruel and painful to ugly kids (especially girls) AND trying to teach the importance of inner beauty. It's a hard line to walk, and I don't envy OP, but I think it's great that she's trying to really hear what her daughter is saying. [/quote]

Do you want plastic surgery? Did you want it as a chulf?
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