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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that a lot of the time, women AND men who have trouble are extremely emotional and it turns potential partners off. I've seen it time and again with people I know who struggle in the dating scene - they get overly excited about the relationship potential of every new person who comes along, they get really attached really fast, they often have sex right away, they're really open about their intense feelings and hopes, and they scare the other person away.

I think the abilities to control your emotions, play it cool, give things time and space to play out naturally, and not push too hard are ESSENTIAL. Unfortunately, the older people get, the more anxious they get and the more they try to rush things, and it all backfires. And the cycle keeps repeating. [/quote]

I'm a guy and I completely agree with this.  I've been guilty of this kind of "too much" behavior myself.  One of my wife's very good friends who is a PHENOMENAL CATCH is like this - smart, hot, successful, nice and outgoing.  She is the whole package.  I would totally have dated her and pursued her if I hadn't met her through my wife, LOL!  But, she gets crazy intense, much much much too quickly.  It scares off the guys.  Plus, she does, unrelated to her emotional attitudes, just happen to have those wide big eyes that are attractive, but kind of like the demotivational poster crazy girlfriend eyes.

It's OK to be excited about someone, but don't have sex right away and don't be so open about your intense feelings and hopes...you should be on a long slow reveal - the 3-6 month timeframe - even if you think you've met 'the one' (which is BS, there are many, and you've probably had that "the one" feeling more than once!) after the first date.  [/quote]

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