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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids know the rule: If you want to go to college, you have to pay for it.

Oldest worked her ass off at school and got a full ride to a good college, second worked 40hrs/week during summers starting 9th grade and had part time jobs during the school year and is paying essentially out of pocket + a few scholarships. Youngest one is currently a sophomore and relying on loans plus a little saved up over her high school career.

Our kids knew that they had to do the work to get jobs. Some parents can "hire" their kid at their own company, but we couldn't, and wouldn't. Some might see it as mean or bad parenting, but you have to realize that we won't be able to pay for their first house, or their wedding, or their graduate school. If we pay for their college, they never will learn to pull their own way. They will expect us to bail out their bad decisions. And if DD1 couldn't find a job over the summer and needed a bit more money, we would probably loan her a bit (with interest) as we know she is a hardworking adult who will pay us back.

I see parents paying for their kids to go to college, and it makes me sad. Those are kids who will never truly be independent. We could pay for college for our kids, but we decided that it was not our jobs. [/quote]

I think you're a little off base. I admire the independence you're encouraging, and if your children can get scholarships or earn their spending money, that's great. But in this country the system is not really set up for kids to pay their own way (if they don't get scholarships.) It's just too expensive. No amount of high school working can pay for it (while maintaining the grades to get INTO college.)  I think it's great that one child got scholarships, and one can mostly pay it herself with money she earned plus scholarships. But your youngest is relying on loans. For many people that's the only option. But you say you can afford to pay for college. If you can afford it, I think it's much better for all of you as a family to avoid your daughter emerging from college with a terrible loan debt burden. There have been many articles about how many students are graduating and spending decades trying to pay back that burden. [/quote]

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