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Absolutely. I have issues with racist stereotyping. I think I also have issues with some scumbag telling me that as a "foreign born" naturalized American (and mother of American citizens)that I have to tow some White person's idea of what freedom of speech is.

I also have issues with White Americans trying to claim "reverse racism" when they are given a dose of their own medicine.  Watch this to understand why this does not work -
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dw_mRaIHb-M

I have issues with people having issues with the fact that I focus on my kid's education.  I have issues with the fact that I am now feeling compelled to defend my community and parenting style - not because I am a neglectful mom, who is snorting cocaine and letting my kids do whatever they want to BUT because I am actually an involved parent who is doing my best to raise a child who will be a contributing member of the society.

I however do not have any issues with unsheathing my claws and taking some swipes now and then. Tiger moms are on the top of the food chain in the jungle - FYI![/quote]

PP.  I am a foreign born Asian mom who does not have tutor for my kids.  There are racists on both sides, let's not kid ourselves.  Some people who have negative views on extra tutors for kids and such are not racist, and some clearly are.   I don't think most parents here have issues with parents focusing on education.  It is when parents *only* focus on education at the detriment of everything else that people start judging...and yes, people here judge.   If you post on DCUM, you will get judged.  If you are not pushy with your kids and your kids are well-rounded, then you shouldn't feel the need to defend yourself.

I know what the Asian culture is like, and some of it is not so great.  The emphasis on only academics is not healthy.  Maybe this is required in most Asian countries, but that is not the case here.  Your kids and my kids have an immense opportunity here, both academically and otherwise, that they may not have in our home countries.  Let's take advantage of these opportunities to let the kids be kids for just a bit.  We are talking about ES kids here.  Rigorous academia is just around the corner.  When it really counts, that's when the Tiger Mom needs to come out.[/quote]

Actually, I am not defending myself. Rather, I am defending the choice of others to get tutoring for their kids. I am also trying to point out that many times the conversation is not about the pressures a child can be under, but about a certain culture and the way they parent.  Tiger Moms have now become synonymous with Asian moms. Even though every parent in an HGC is a Tiger mom/dad because they are engaged in their child's schooling.

Most parents here who are from a different country are aware of the fact that they need to take the best from both the cultures and discard the worst. I think most of us are trying to do our best for our children. However, many of the posts here have strong currents of racism against ANY race other than Whites. And so, some home truths need to be told to everyone.

I feel that if any non-White child achieves something worthwhile, the snark starts here. If you want to have a discussion it disintegrates into how miserable the Asian kids lives are and how AA kids only get into Ivies because of Affirmative Action.

I did not know how deep these resentments run - unless I started reading it here. I can understand outrage about parenting when there is neglect involved, but when parents are dedicating their time, effort and money towards their child - this sort of criticism is not warranted. There needs to be an understanding about cultural differences. However, a malicious pleasure is taken to reduce all the achievement that has come about through lot of sacrifice and hard work into a caricature.

This is DC, where all nations and nationalities are represented, people are highly educated, they are exposed to other cultures, they have high SES - these are the advantages and benefits that are not afforded to most of the people in this nation. Is this all one is capable of, after all the education and advantages? 
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