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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm posting this having only read the first 3 pages of the thread.

I was struck by two things:
1) Your frantic search for the missing $60 while your children watched, and 
2) That your son wanted to show his grandparents that he was being good by helping around the house.

When I read #1, all I could imagine is that in your son's situation, I would have been so afraid of admitting that I took the money.  You were so upset about the loss, it would be especially daunting to admit having taken the money.  You sort of "raised the emotional bar" on admitting to the theft.

Second, I think it's remarkable that your son was motivated by wanting to impress his grandparents.  Taken with #1, your son seems to really care that others have a good opinion of him.  This suggests that he has a strong moral core.

As for your question, why didn't he just put the money back?  Honestly, as a 10 year old, he might have just not thought of doing that.  It seems so obvious, but it might not have been, especially if he was overwhelmed by his emotions of guilt and concern about other's good opinion.

I guess my bottom line opinion is that you should tread carefully in the way you express your acceptance/love/approval of your son.  He needs to understand that what he did was wrong, but he also needs to know that you still love and accept him.  Do whatever you need to punish him for these transgressions, but also give him opportunities to impress and make you proud.  [/quote]

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